The Art of Balance

As I may have mentioned once or twice, I do a vast amount of cooking in the World's Tiniest Kitchen. Just ask my husband, who is usually on dish duty- I'm pretty prolific. There's a lot of creative magic going on in there....along with plenty of reliance on old standbys and quick fixes when either inspiration or time are in short supply. Once you know the basics of what kinds of ingredients make a healthy, balanced, and wholesome meal, playing around with ingredients and combinations while using your imagination is, I believe, the best way to learn how to cook. It's how I learned, and it's still my favorite way to do things in the kitchen. However, no one can be a culinary wizard all the time, so it's important to have your kitchen set up in order to not only foster creativity but also to assist you in keeping things simple, easy, organized and accessible so that your cooking efforts can progress with ease- whether you're creating a new dish for the first time with wild abandon than knows no recipe, or recreating that same old favorite standby for the umpteenth time because it's healthy, easy, and you enjoy eating it every time.

Since my kitchen is about the size of the inside of a minivan (and that's being very generous), how I keep things organized and stored is absolutely crucial to my ability to cook balanced and interesting meals in anything resembling an orderly fashion. All it takes is one incidence of an open jar of tomato sauce crashing to the floor and splattering red goop all over every white wall and white appliance in sight to let you know that you cannot balance something too close to the edge of the top of the refrigerator, even if that was in fact the only spot of open space available. (Both my husband and I being over 6 feet tall helps our kitchen space situation- evidenced by how the top of the refrigerator is used regularly for extra prep and storage space). We've also learned the ingenuity of using the tops of the cabinets to store all of our pots and pans (again, see former discussion of height), which have to be placed in a certain particular order and stacking configuration in order for all of them to fit. Lastly, everything from the refrigerator shelves to every single cabinet is organized to best maximize the space we have- a place for everything, and everything in it's place, literally. I'm not saying it's perfect, and I'm not obsessive about it, but I've learned that balance is the key to keeping my kitchen in full swing and happy working order. With the significant space limitations we have and the amount of food shopping, cooking, and meal-brainstorming that I do, it simply does not work any other way.

One particularly demonstrative example is the small cabinet above our stove. It's awkwardly high and very small, and you have to reach over the stove hood to get to it- it is basically only suitable for two categories: things I need to grab at quickly and regularly while cooking (oils, pot holders, and flame deflector- very helpful when cooking your own beans and grains), and items that are removed and replaced often that don't quite fit in anywhere else (lunch tiffins, avocado saver, lemon juicer, mini grater- you realize everything does come in "mini" when you have a tiny kitchen!). This small, quirky storage space is essential for me because I use the items contained in it on a daily basis, and I need to be able to access them in an instant when moving swiftly through my morning cooking routine. However, as I mentioned, it's also small and therefore somewhat limited in how it can be organized, meaning that balance becomes a crucial element. Everything in there fits perfectly when each thing is more or less occupying it's given space. Because the space demands it, we purposely make an effort to keep it that way; it's not difficult to do, it just requires attention, and it makes everything work much more smoothly.

A few months ago, I started to notice here and there when I would reach up and into that mini cabinet that something was askew- nothing alarming, like finding a plastic baboon toy in the vegetable drawer (only those who are related to me by blood or marriage are familiar with that story), but more like finding the pot-holders tumbling over into the lunch containers, or the various kitchen implements sticking out at increasingly rakish angles, or the tea pot having a shoving contest with the french press. It was something I noticed vaguely each time, and it made things in there feel slightly disorderly and unsettled, which made my cooking routine just that slight bit more bumpy and disheveled, but by such a small fraction that I didn't take the time to correct it. It doesn't matter, I thought each time. It won't make a difference if I let that one thing come a bit undone.

Until one morning....

I came happily and sleepily into the kitchen to begin cooking my husband's lunch, which required reaching into that mischievous little cabinet above the stove. No sooner had I opened the tiny doors than suddenly I was at the bottom of a veritable avalanche of stainless steel tiffins clanging down on me, glass beverage carafes tumbling down on all sides and threatening to burst into shards around me, and all manner of non-threatening rubber fruit and vegetable shaped tools bouncing off of my head. I looked like a character in a slapstick routine who haphazardly contorts their arms and legs and chin to collect every falling object in some desperate attempt to retain order. Not, shall we say, the most relaxing way to wake up.

Bit by bit, with my noticing it but not acting on it, our mini cabinet up high- the happy and cozy resting place of so many of my daily cooking helpers- had become profoundly unbalanced. Each individual shift into this unbalanced state was perceived at the time as singular and insignificant; an item slightly out of place, something falling over where previously something else had stood to support it, a lack of space for something that belonged there because something else had crept in and taken up residence. But these shifts weren't just singular, and they were far from insignificant. There was a process of unbalancing happening, one domino falling at a time, and I let myself ignore it and remain unaware of the signs even as the imbalance grew into a state of barely restrained chaos - it must have, because that final morning, all it had taken was one tiny shift (and who knows what that was?) to make every item within that space spring out at me in utter pandemonium.

You might think I'm being perhaps just slightly hyperbolic here. Just a touch dramatic? Fair enough, and I admit I do love when a story like this can be polished into a perfectly fitting metaphor, but in this case it's for very good reason- later that very day, I found myself pondering the story of the cabinet and its Jack-In-The-Box surprise for me. "What happened?" I pondered with amusement. "Was I really paying that little attention? No. It must have just happened slowly, one slip at a time." And I could not help but fall face first into a full blown realization about how that completely describes what happens to me when I let the things that center, balance, and sustain me slip away....out of focus, out of priority, out of the rotation, off the schedule. You know, we all do it...one thing at a time, we make little excuses about how we can't, shouldn't, won't have time to, are too tired to, or won't really be affected if we don't do that thing that we usually rely on to keep us feeling happy, grounded, taken care of and stable. But then it becomes a pattern of not doing it, it becomes the new norm, and it extends beyond just that thing, to that other thing, too. That other stabilizing, gratifying standby that we know will see us through, that we take for granted but deep down appreciate the value of....we let it go. Just this one time, and then we'll get back to it, right?

It all adds up. The skipped grounding and centering yoga class that we forfeited when we felt too busy with social obligations becomes two weeks away from the studio. The lunch prep ritual that saves money and provides healthy, tasty lunches gets pushed aside in favor of sleeping in those few more minutes and grabbing something quick but costly and less nutritious at the deli. The head-clearing, body boosting walk or run outside gets traded in for running around on errands, cramming in more and more to-do's that never seem to get done. The hour of reading before bed that we know helps us to turn off the activity of the day and prepare for rest becomes the hour for catching up on any last emails and doing dishes or laundry that didn't get done because we were....wait, what were we doing? Before we know it, we're unbalanced. And unbalanced is not a nice, healthy, happy, or stable place to be. It's feels like metal lunch containers and rubber lemons bouncing off of your head in every direction.

It happens to all of us, and after the morning of the kitchen mini-avalanche, I took that as an opportunity to revisit my own commitment to the practices and elements that keep me organized, grounded, stable, calm and peaceful, not to mention happy and joyful in life. It's a check-in we all need to do on a regular basis. I'm talking about both the big and the small things here, because they're equally important. The practices and rituals we engage in on a daily basis to keep us feeling like ourselves and to keep our lives operating the way we want them to are just as elemental to our overall well being as the larger scale choices and that support our long term initiatives and goals for what we want out of our lives. When we begin to ignore our own needs here and there, or make excuses about de-prioritizing the habits and practices that keep us feeling happy and taken care of, we slip out of balance...slowly at first, until suddenly things seem to crumble around us all at once. Therefore, in order to exist peacefully, happily, and healthfully, we have to maintain our balance by taking care to prioritize our needs each day and also to notice when we've begun to stray from ourselves so that we can come back to balance. That can mean different things for each of us, so what does that mean for you? What area of your own self-care have you been subtly paying less and less attention to lately? Exercising? Alone time? Shopping for and preparing healthy food? Engaging in nourishing hobbies? What warning sign, either physical, emotional, or mental, have you been stubbornly ignoring? And can you see how letting go of or neglecting to implement rituals and practices just for you in your daily life is pulling you further and further away from where you want to be? Be brave and take a look...you may be surprised.

The good news is, just as imbalance can be arrived at bit by bit, so can balance be restored- one thing at a time. Our choices create a cyclical effect, and we can decide what we want to receive as the result of our actions. Look around and inside of you to find out what elements are keeping you off balance- is it an unhealthy habit or choice pattern that needs to be bidden farewell? Or a healthy one that needs to shift back into your schedule?- and address just one thing first. It doesn't have to be a radical shift, just an intentional one. Make a commitment to yourself that you will do this thing, just for you. Because you know it benefits you, and because you believe you deserve it. Once that feels comfortable and consistent, add in another, one step at a time. Think of it as building a foundation under a house- you build the most important support beams first, and then you build around them to create a structure that will hold up the entire house, come what may. Decide what is currently missing from your routine that keeps you feeling grounded, rested, flexible and happy, and start to implement those practices one by one- until you've built a foundation that can support you through anything that comes along!


Interested in finding out more about what foods are right for your own body and why? Looking for personalized information and support to help you change your eating and lifestyle choices in order to achieve your own specific goals for health and wellness? Contact me to set up a consultation: erica@wellnessrealized.com

Health: It's In Your Hands

Hi everyone!

It's been a busy few weeks here at WR, and it seems I have been absent from the blog for a while- but I'm back! With the return of Spring, it's a perfect time to refocus our efforts at staying balanced, healthy, and feeling great, and that means acknowledging how much that state of balance, health and happiness depends on our own conscious choices, practices, and patterns in our everyday lives. It isn't something that anyone else can do for us or force us to do. Our wellness is created by the choices we make in our lives: choices about how and where we spend our time and with whom, and choices about how we listen to and interpret the needs of our bodies; how we feed them, move them, and heal them when they are hurting.

We are the creators of our state of health and well being, and we have the power to recreate it and heal the areas that are hurting every day. Yet, so many of us shirk that responsibility, feeling that we aren't truly capable of taking care of ourselves in the ways needed to assure health and wellness; that it's too complicated, expensive, and too much work to take charge of our own well being. So we wait for someone else to tell us how to live, for an expert to confirm if what our intuition and common sense tells us is right, or in many cases, we just wait until a problem escalates and then expect a doctor to come in and fix, heal, and cure problems when we experience them. There is nothing wrong with seeking the help and advice of health professionals and doctors when we need information, support, and intervention when it comes to the healing of or dealing with a health related condition, but it is essential for us to realize that the true reality of our state of health comes down to what we choose to do, in our own time, in our own homes, with our own friends and families, on a daily basis, to take care of ourselves.

No matter how valiant the effort or how skilled and renowned a doctor or hospital is, we have to acknowledge that there is a limit to what medical intervention can do in the prevention and management of today's widespread health problems such as obesity, diabetes, and heart disease, as discussed in this New York Times Well Blog post on When Home Life Trumps Health Care, simply because of the fact that what we do when we go home on a daily basis is what creates the ongoing state of health or illness in our bodies, and those choices cannot be forced or even overseen by our doctors- it's in our own hands. Doctors and hospitals can surely help you immensely and even save your life, but when you go home and go back to your own daily routine, it's up to you to make the decisions and choices that are going to bring you health and wellness in the long haul.

And what about the other experts? Well, as I know all too well from the understandably confused and frustrated first-time clients who come into my office and from my own time spent in the field, there are a LOT of conflicting opinions out there, and a lot of just plan bad information. My best advice? First, tune in to yourself: become focused and quiet, and ask yourself, right now, what you feel that you need in order order to bring more health and balance into your life. Do you need to be eating more vegetables and less fast food? Drinking less alcohol and more water? Do you need to be working fewer late nights and finding some more alone time for relaxation? Do you need to learn how to cook healthy, simple meals for yourself or your family? Do you need to take up a regular exercise routine? Do you need to learn how to food shop in a way that is inexpensive but still health-supportive and convenient? Do you need to begin to make and bring lunch to work in order to maintain energy throughout the day while also cutting expensive and unhealthy lunches out?

Then, ask yourself what supportive choices you need to be making in order to create that reality and actually make it real. Do you need to schedule in time in your weekly calendar to make planned food shopping trips so that your kitchen can be stocked for easy meal prep? Do you need to plan some social activities that revolve around something other than drinking and eating out? Do you need to enlist the help of someone to teach you how to shop for, prepare, and cook food that will be healthy and supportive for you while not breaking the bank or taking up all of your time? Do you need to re-organize your free time to include less procrastinating online and TV watching and more time enjoying of activities that bring you both joy and benefit to your emotional and physical health? Do you need to treat time to cook and eat as importantly as you treat your other obligations? Do you need to discover and implement, once and for all, an approach to eating and exercise that feels so natural and comfortable for you that you actually stick with it? It isn't as elusive as it sometimes seems, I promise- the key to maintaining health and wellness is answering the above questions for yourself with honesty, accepting your own responsibility in creating your state of health, and then making the choices, decisions, and rituals that ill support and sustain your own approach to health and wellness.

So, now what? Where do you go from here if you've answered the above questions and realized that between all of the conflicting advice out there and your own personal circumstances and challenges, you could really use some good solid information and some help in making these supportive choices and practices to create a new state of health and wellness? You'll need to call on someone to help and guide you that intuitively feels right to you; someone who provides you with the accountability that will help you in achieving your desired goals but who also possesses the awareness that your health, your body, and your wellness are ultimately your own creation- someone who will teach you a new way to live so that you can take care of yourself forever, rather than relying on an external system or person that ultimately cannot create or sustain your health and wellness for you. We all benefit immensely from help, support, information, tips, tools, and guidance, and those resources are available from professionals such as myself and many others who provide our clients with the beginning of a new relationship with health and wellness. The help obtained from these resources, however, can only be realized to its full potential when we are taking responsibility for how we live our own lives once we go home, and that means taking the initiative and prioritizing our needs for what will balance and sustain our state of well being.

If you realize that you have become an inactive participant or even just an onlooker in your health and wellness care (or lack thereof), it's time to take it back. I can tell you from plenty of professional and personal experience that it is what we do in day to day life, the choices we make for our own bodies, hearts, and minds, that creates wellness. It is what and how we eat, it is when and how we make time for ourselves to relax and unwind, it is if and how we express our emotions, how much we joyously move our bodies, and especially how we listen to our bodies when they are alerting us to something that is wrong and act accordingly. Pain , illness, disease and discomfort are all signals from the body that it is time to pay attention and make a change, and time to take action to bring back balance- we have the power in our own hands to do so. I am here to help you with ongoing information, support, and practical and natural tools for optimal nutrition and wellness according to your own unique needs, and will do so in a way that grows and fosters your ability to truly take care of yourself in your own life and by your own hands...please contact me at erica@wellnessrealized.com if you are interested in my help.

Your health is in your own hands: Hold onto it!


Interested in finding out more about what foods are right for your own body and why? Looking for personalized information and support to help you change your eating and lifestyle choices in order to achieve your own specific goals for health and wellness? Contact me to set up a consultation: erica@wellnessrealized.com

Wellness Realized Hits the Streets to "Spread The Love"!

This past Friday I began the realization of a dream I have had for 8 years, ever since I first moved to New York City. I remember being struck and saddened when I first moved here by how many needy people one sees on a day to say basis, and while that number is still higher than we would like to believe, the unfortunate truth is that we start to not see these people; not really. We learn to look away or brush past without stopping when someone on the street or in the subway asks for change, food, or help. We learn to block out the looks, sounds, and smells of those who are living in desperate destitution. We start to find it difficult to pay any attention to because it's too sad, or too offensive, or too annoying in the middle of our busy day- besides, what can we really DO about it, anyway? Don't we have places to be and our own busy lives to live? And aren't we all just struggling to get by, never mind the additional burden of helping someone else?

That's where my dream came in. When I first lived in the city, I was working in the art world and making a startlingly low salary by New York City standards (yay for working in one of the least lucrative career fields in one of the most expensive cities in the world!), so I was making do but barely, with very little money to spare. I had lived in smaller European cities before and had spent significant time in NYC on many visits over the years, and I always took naturally to cities so my adjustment was not difficult. But that doesn't change the fact that all of a sudden seeing homeless and hungry people begging or scavenging on a day to day basis wore on me, both as a newcomer to the city and as a sensitive and empathetic person. While I certainly wasn't in a financial position to donate any real money to speak of, I immediately began to think about how I could come up with a plan to take what I had in terms of money and time and turn it into a way to directly help people who were suffering in New York City. That is when my dream was born, that very first year: to go to the store, purchase basic sandwich supplies that I would turn into packed lunches at home, and hand them out myself to the homeless and hungry in the streets of New York. Nothing fancy or large scale, just what I could afford and do with what time and money I had. But what appealed to me most about it was how direct it was- actually putting food right into the hands of the people who need it. How easy is that? I knew I could do that.

And yet, for some reason, it didn't come to pass. I thought about it a whole lot, for years- it would pop up in my mind, asking me to commit to at least trying it, since I had been wanting to for years. But it always got put off for one reason or another. I would sometimes find myself intentionally carrying around some item of food (a part of my lunch, or leftovers from a restaurant meal) until I saw someone who was needy who I would gladly hand it over to. And every single time, I would think...."You could do this for real. You could follow that dream. What's stopping you? It would be so easy...." And yet it still wouldn't happen. Over the years my hunger for charitable work led me to look into volunteer positions with New York Cares, Meals on Wheels, homes for the elderly in my neighborhood in Brooklyn, and finally I settled on a position volunteering at C.H.I.P.S., the local soup kitchen in Brooklyn, one day a week for 6 months. I was satisfied with having finally settled on one organization and followed through on this impulse, and it was an extremely valuable experience. I was thrilled to be tangibly helping needy people and I was personally benefiting from the perspective that brings, but it was difficult to commit to a regular schedule there, because as a self-employed person my own work schedule is constantly shifting, and also, due to a (very fortunately) large amount of volunteers at this soup kitchen, I sometimes felt there wasn't really that much work for me to do when I was there. I was grateful and impressed at seeing this venerable soup kitchen working so well and helping so many people, but I felt that perhaps my own help could be more effective elsewhere, especially given my scheduling needs.

So that brings us to present day...I have been yearning for years to find a charitable outlet that directly helps and nourishes those in need, while also fitting into a construct that would be workable for me given what I have to offer in terms of money and time. It suddenly became clear to me that it was now time to follow my long held dream, my little organization of one, hitting the streets of NYC to hand out food to the homeless, hungry, and needy. Simple. Real. Perfect. Finally!

The same day I had this realization, several hours earlier before it had come to light, I was walking down a quiet street in Brooklyn and I found a $10 bill sitting discarded in the snow. I looked around, and there was no one anywhere nearby to ask if they had dropped it. I made sure, and then tucked it into my pocket, taking it as a sign of providence and a message to trust that all will be taken care of if we have faith and remain positive. Truth be told, at the exact moment I looked down saw the money I had been harboring real estate worries- my husband and I soon want to upgrade to a different home in the same neighborhood, and I sometimes wonder about how that will actually happen- so this was a much needed message of providence indeed, and I was happy to accept it! No sooner had I picked it up, though, that I began to think about how to constructively use it. What I benefited from was the message of bounty from the universe and the freedom from worry that it brought, but I felt that I wanted to use the money itself towards a charitable cause, in order to give that bounty back into the pool and let it benefit someone else's life in whatever small way it could. Later that evening, when pondering how for many reasons I was missing the charitable outlet in my life since stopping my work at the soup kitchen, I had the realization that it was time to follow my dream. And at that moment I knew exactly what the $10 was for. It would be the financial beginnings of Spread The Love! I began making lists.

Since I never abandoned my original idea and it was always floating around in the back of my mind at any given time, I didn't have to spend much time brainstorming. I knew exactly what I wanted to do. What: Sandwiches. Who: Homeless and hungry people. Where: Streets and subways of New York City. Now, some things had changed- I wasn't yet a certified nutrition professional when this dream first formed, so I did want to make a slight adjustment to the actual content of the sandwiches I'd be handing out in order to deliver optimal nutrition in a simple and easy package. And while I insisted that the food be good quality, it still had to be relatively inexpensive, because I was funding this project myself and I wanted to feed as many people as possible. It also had to remain simple, because part of the beauty of this plan is its pure simplicity and feasibility. Luckily, I had considered all of these things before, which is why I had settled on simple sandwiches; so all that was needed were a few adjustments in keeping with my now honed nutrition philosophy, and with the bonus of a Trader Joe's in my neighborhood for reasonably priced but good quality supplies, I was off and running. The next morning, I went out and bought what I would need: two large loaves of whole multi-grain bread, two jars of sunflower seed butter, two large jars of organic strawberry jam, and two bags of organic apples, along with plastic baggies for the sandwiches and brown paper bags to pack the lunches. I came home and got to work preparing the goods!

So, why did I choose this particular meal? For several reasons. The building blocks of healthy nutrition are complex carbohydrates, protein, fat, fiber, minerals and vitamins. I wanted to make a simple meal that could impart as much of those nutrients as possible, while still remaining relatively inexpensive and easy to transport, which would also not require refrigeration (I knew some people would be saving the food for later and did not have access to refrigeration) or pose a problem for those with certain food allergies and/or dietary constraints. You may not think of this, but some people who are hungry are still vegetarians. Or allergic to nuts. Or don't eat certain animal foods. Or don't digest dairy well. This is one of the valuable lessons I learned at the soup kitchen- just because someone is desperate doesn't mean they don't have their own particular wants and needs, and I wanted to honor those as best I could, especially because this meal takes those considerations in mind and still fits in keeping with my own approach to optimal nutrition which is that a diet based in wholesome, natural plant foods is best for health and wellness.

Whole multi-grain bread, due to its high whole grain content, provides complex carbohydrates for energy and stamina while also offering a high amount of fiber to aid digestion, along with protein which builds tissue and imparts strength, and essential minerals and vitamins offered from the whole grain in the bread. Sunflower seed butter is a handy alternative to nut butters, which are a common allergen, yet looks and tastes exactly the same as peanut butter (albeit more expensive), and offers a great source of easily digestible protein along with a high amount of healthy fat to keep the body nourished and able to carry out all of its multiple organ functions. Sunflower seeds also offer an impressive mineral profile and a decent amount of vitamins; minerals and vitamins are essential to health, bodily function and immune function, and they are often hard to obtain for those who are restricted to an extremely limited food supply. The jam is mostly there for flavor and a small amount of fruit vitamins, so I was sure to pick an organic, low sugar version made from organic strawberries and nothing artificial. The apple is there to provide additional fiber as well as crucial vitamins, namely Vitamin C, which is plentiful in apples and plays an important role in immune health.

As I made these Sunbutter and jam sandwiches , I was aware that I was quite literally "spreading the love" even before I hit the streets to actually Spread The Love, and so in every sandwich I carved a heart on the inside (just like I do when I make one for my husband), and as I pressed each sandwich together I said the words "I Love You" so that my intention and energy would be absorbed into this food and thus received by those eating it. Spread The Love is the name of this project because its purpose is to deliver love and nourishment through an act of kindness to those in need. The name feels absolutely perfect.

Once all the lunches were prepared -16 lunches in total for this first foray- I packed up my bag (and yes, it *happened* to be my love hearts bag, but only because it was the only bag I had that was the right size! we'll call it a happy accident) and set out in the snow to deliver them into the hands that needed them. I decided to stick to the subway trains and platforms first; I figured that would offer me the greatest likelihood of finding the people I was looking for in a concentrated area, especially since it was such a cold and snowy day and that type of weather tends to drive many needy people underground seeking warmth and safety. I plotted a route through some of the largest, busiest subway stations in Manhattan with the most trains coming through- Union Square, Herald Square, Times Square, Port Authority, and others- and at each one I would get off the train and canvas the station, walking up and down each platform for each different train, handing out the lunches to the needy people I found along the way. The first thing I noticed was that, given our learned tendency to overlook needy and homeless people as we are rushing from place to place in our day, I really had to keep my eyes peeled to find them. We are all so accustomed to brushing past the person asking for change, begging for food, or sleeping on the cold hard floor, that our eyes become trained in this aversion...and yet now I was actively seeking them out, looking for them, hoping to find them. And it wasn't as easy as I thought it would be, but I did find them, and as I became enriched from this shift in perspective I committed to not turn away from these people anymore, to be aware of them at all times, and to help them whenever I could.

I decided on some ground rules early on for whom I would approach and how: I decided I would stick to mostly central, populated areas for the sake of safety and also to find people most easily, that I would ask each person before handing them some food in order to establish my intention, show that it was safe and out of kindness, and give them a choice in the matter (one person did actually say no), and that I would only offer food to those who were clearly presenting as needy or homeless by either begging, rummaging through garbage, sleeping on a bench or outside, or otherwise exhibiting a derelict state. This required a willingness to observe carefully, because while some cases were obvious, not all needy people "look" like they are at first glance, and not all people who look unkempt are actually homeless or needy. This was especially the case for a middle aged man I observed, dressed normally in jeans and a jacket, standing around on a half-full subway platform as people buzzed around him or waited for the train...only when he thought no one was looking would he turn around and pick through a large garbage can beside where he lingered, hunting for bits of food or something he could use. When I approached him and said "Excuse me," he looked surprised and frightened, as though he'd been caught in the act and would be in trouble. There was an element of shame as well as fear, until I followed by extending my hand with a brown bag lunch in it and saying "Would you like some food? It's a packed lunch." His face softened with relief first, then realization, and finally gratitude. This reaction played out again and again as I made my ways through first the subways and then the streets of New York. I realized then how often the homeless and needy in large cities are accustomed not only to being ignored by passersby, but to being apprehended in some way, told to move along, or perhaps even chastised. Almost everyone I approached seemed surprised and a little bit taken a back...they were clearly not used to being spoken to or acknowledged, certainly not with kindness.

When I had spent about 2 hours wandering the platforms and trains of the subway stations without yet popping above ground, I decided to hit the streets for a while to see what I could find. I was ready for some fresh air by then and wanted to make sure I found some of the people who were on the streets as well, in order to Spread The Love more thoroughly. When I popped above ground at West 4th Street, the snow was really billowing down and the streets were pretty empty; it was almost evening at that point, and I became concerned that I wouldn't know where to go to find people outside in this weather. I was pretty tired at this point as well, so I decided to just walk a loosely planned route through some populous areas nearby and see what happened. I came across a man in Washington Square Park, sitting on a bench with garbage bags all around him. It was so cold and snowy that he was the only person in the park, besides me. Like most of the people I gave lunches to that day, he thanked me graciously, again and again, and said "God Bless" several times as I walked away smiling at him. I found several more people taking cover under the scaffolding along the lower end of 5th Avenue. I found a seemingly mentally disturbed man sitting at a small table in a Starbucks, staring down at his shaking hands and glancing around nervously while muttering to himself, clearly hoping that no one would notice him and shoo him back out into the cold from which he had found temporary respite. All of these people were approached gently, spoken to kindly, and given a bag of food if they so desired. All but one person accepted.

At the end of the day, it took me almost 4 hours to hand out all of the lunches, but I did not give up until every one was handed out. In the future I will take what I've learned and apply it in order to maximize the number of people I can reach in that time. This is not a one time thing: I have held this dream for a long time, and now that I have realized it, I plan to make it a regular part of my life. I learned a lot from this first experience of Spreading The Love: namely, how the acknowledgement of a suffering person, the speaking of a kind word, the willingness to look, accept, and care, are as important as the actual assistance you are providing. The food was greatly appreciated and much needed by these people, I could tell- but so was the validation of being spoken to kindly by another human being who wasn't just breezing by, unseeing and uncaring. It felt good for me too, of course. I felt tired, and somewhat saddened by what I had seen, but mostly brimming with an immense hope for the myriad possibilities of a small scale approach to helping people- one person at a time. We can all do this in our lives, we can all take part in an exchange of positive energy. There are some images from that day that stay with me: the older Eastern European woman in Union Square subway station, begging in a wheelchair with one hand extended, unable to speak English to thank me but gazing at up at me with tears forming in her eyes and a smile spreading across her aged face. The moving sight of a man sitting all alone in a park covered with stark clean white snow, with only garbage bags of nothing gathered around him for security, but a love in his heart that allowed him to smile broadly and heartily "God Bless" me over and over for helping him.

Spread the Love is going to be a regular part of my world from now on. I don't know yet how often I will do it, but I am committing to maintaining this project going forward. I may be only one person, but I know how much one person can make a difference, and small scale is where big change starts. I will be funding this project myself, but in time, I plan to look into asking some neighborhood businesses if they would be willing to make donations of food for this project. If you yourself feel inclined to help this project along by making a small donation, I would of course be very grateful, as would those on the receiving end of the food I am providing- I promise that any amount, no matter how small, will be completely and efficiently used towards the purchase of food that will be delivered directly into the hands of the needy. If you've been looking for an easy, no hassle way to make a small no-minimum contribution to charity, here's your chance! I will post more in the future about the continuing efforts of Spread The Love, and I hope this story has inspired you to seek out small ways to make big changes in your own communities. Even if by just remembering to acknowledge and dignify all of the souls you come across in life.

I would like to share this video, which is extremely beautiful and moving, and which helped inspire me to follow my own dream with Spread The Love. The actions we take to spread love and caring to those around us contain more power to change the world than anything else: video of the works of Mr. Narayanan Krishnan.

"Table for One" : The Art of Eating, Alone

These days, with our busy ever-shifting schedules and jam-packed work days, many of us eat at least one meal a day alone- often two. Many of these meals are eaten in the office or workplace, and some of them are eaten at home or in a restaurant of sorts. Even if we live with others or with families, we often don't eat all of our meals with them, either because we don't feel inclined to or because we are all feeling pulled in different directions by our schedules and obligations. Stop for a moment and consider how often you eat alone, and then ask yourself- how you are using that time?

The temptation when eating alone is to immediately seek distraction in the form of something "to do". Because we can't just sit there, eating, ALONE...right? We'll often look for something to read or flip through, something to entertain us and either engage our brains or shut them off such as email, Facebook, blogs online, magazines, or even paperwork for our jobs. If we're at home, we'll often plop down in front of the TV to distract ourselves with whatever shows are on, zoning out as we chew and swallow. What about when we're eating alone in a restaurant without a TV or computer or book nearby? Out comes the cell phone or PDA for some texting or internet surfing, or we dig around for something....ANYTHING....to distract ourselves with. And usually, we gobble down these alone meals fairly quickly, because it's not like it's worth spending any time on a simple old everyday meal just for us, right?

But what are we hiding and rushing away from? Is it that uncomfortable to simply sit, alone, and eat our food? Is it that preposterous to let our meal itself, and the act of enjoying it and receiving it, be all the stimulation we need? Well, yes, it can be that uncomfortable and seem odd....at first. That's because we aren't used to it, and we are no longer conditioned to view the art of eating as something intimate, pleasureable, and worthy of our full attention, especially when we are eating alone. Why shouldn't you get just as much enjoyment, pleasure, and relaxation out of a meal eaten alone as you do when dining with others or when celebrating a special occasion? Eating is about nourishment including but not limited to the food itself, and in order to get the most out of your meals both physically and emotionally, you need to honor your meal times as a special time in your day for relaxation, reflection, and pleasure; even when eating alone.

It's a well known fact that rushing through a meal by hastily chewing and gulping down your food results in discomfort, gas, bloating, and acid indigestion. But many people aren't aware that this rushed approach to eating actually hinders your ability to digest your food, assimilate your nutrients, and maintain an efficient metabolism. When we're eating fast, the digestive system does not have time to adequately and effectively process what we are taking in so we miss crucial steps of the digestion and assimilation cycle, meanwhile the body receives the message that we are in a state of stress or emergency and responds by releasing stress hormones that trigger a "fight or flight" response, causing the body to pause the metabolism of energy to focus on the "emergency" at hand. That's right: eating fast--> lack of digestion and assimilation --> stress response --> the shut-down of calorie and fat burning.

When we eat in a distracted state, there is a similar effect: our bodies and minds are so interwoven that when we are mentally focusing on something other than the art of eating what is in front of us, our bodies lose focus on the act of digesting, assimilating, and metabolizing our food. While we may think we are master multi-taskers, the fact is that you can't be working on a report on your computer while absent mindedly munching on a sandwich and getting the same level of benefit from that sandwich in terms of digestion and satisfaction as you would if you were eating it slowly and paying attention to the fact that this is your time to refuel, and that it in and of itself deserves to be a priority. When we don't give ourselves the space and attention to emotionally and mentally engage fully with the act of eating, we miss out on a crucial part of the eating experience both physically and emotionally and thus wind up unsatisfied, tired, groggy, and feeling deprived of true enjoyment of our food, resulting in everything from overeating to cravings for sweets and stimulants to an overall disillusion with the pleasure of eating.

There are two parts to the nourishment picture: the nutrients and energy in our food that are absorbed into our bodies, and the emotional and mental satisfaction that comes from deriving pleasure and sensation from the act of eating. Make no mistake: both parts are equally important and both play an equal role in balancing health, weight, and fitness. In truth, they are two parts of a whole: nourishment is not only physical or emotional/mental; it's both, and you can't ignore one or the other. If you're having trouble losing weight or maintaining your energy or you just don't feel well after you eat, ask yourself how you eat as well as what you eat. Whether you are eating by yourself or in a group, focus on actually eating your food and let yourself pay attention and enjoy it. Don't succumb to the temptation to rush through or distract yourself. You do deserve to take your time, relax, chew and swallow, and derive real pleasure from your meal.... every meal... whether you're eating alone or in the company of others. Not only do you deserve it, but you need it in order to effectively digest your food and feel truly satisfied with your experience of eating.

So how about some tips for how to make meal time sacred, relaxed and enjoyable, even when dining alone?

At home:

- Sit at at the table, not on the couch. This is a real meal like any other, even though you're alone. You don't need the TV or computer for company, you can be your own company.

- Make use of simple things that signify "dining" or "special" or "relaxation", such as a cloth napkin, a fancy glass for water, a lit candle, or some background music that makes you happy or relaxed. You may be thinking how silly it sounds, but trust me: creating the environment makes a big difference.

- Say a word of thanks before your meal. This does not have to be a prayer or anything religious. Simply having a moment of gratitude before you receive a gift to yourself puts you in the prime place for effectively using and appreciating that gift.

- Practice getting to know the food that is in front of you. Notice the sight, taste, texture, smell of your food as you are eating. This awareness is very significant to your enjoyment of and therefore satisfaction from and digestion of the meal. As my husband heard somewhere, "you take the first bite with your eyes". Or your nose, or your fingers. Engage in your eating and you'll get so much more from it!

-Breathe. This is so important. Taking deep breaths instantly slows us down, calms us within, and sends the message to the body that there is no emergency and therefore no need to tense up and pause metabolism, not to mention that adequate oxygen is essential for digestion and all other bodily processes.

In The Office or Workplace:

- If you can, leave your work area and take your meal to a common area like a lounge or even better to a park or bench outside, weather permitting. The idea is to get some separation (mentally and physically) from your work space if possible, so that you can focus on your meal.

- If you have to eat at your desk or in your office, pull a chair over to the window if you have one, or at the very least turn away from your computer and resolve to not check email, answer phones, or look through papers during your meal.

- Set aside a minimum of 20 to 30 minutes to eat your meal, and ask that anyone coming in to talk to you about work matters comes back when you're finished. You may feel uncomfortable requesting this, but think about what you're asking: a small window of time to engage in and enjoy one of the ONLY essential things we all NEED to do every day. In that context, it's not too much to ask.


As someone who works mostly from home and generally eats two of my three meals a day alone, I find that some of my best ideas, introspective insights, and refreshing periods of calm come during my meals alone. I have come to value those mealtimes as much as I do eating out with others or having a special meal with my husband. Eating is about fun, pleasure, joy, and sensuality, and you deserve to experience that regardless of the situation. Yes, it does take practice, and commitment, and there are times when it would be easier or more convenient to just grab and go, but that's not what your body wants or what your soul needs, and it isn't going to allow you to lose weight, increase your energy, feel better in your body, and just enjoy yourself. Think about it....we all love to eat, so why not give it the sweet spotlight, even when you're by yourself?

Upgrade your Oatmeal

So it's Fall again, and that's good news for Breakfast! Cooler temperatures mean that we are more inclined to seek something warming and hearty for breakfast, and the best bet for a hearty, healthy start to the day is a whole grain porridge. So why is this such good news? Because whole grains are one of the essential foods most lacking in the modern American diet, and they are absolute nutrition powerhouses- packed with protein, fiber, minerals, and energy, these grains are essential for everything from brain function to digestion to blood sugar regulation and energy maintenance. And what better way to start the day that with a bowl of such powerful goodness? I have given an all-purpose description and recipe for whole grain breakfast porridge here and also described a tasty version in the recipe for Breakfast of Champions , so check out those posts for how-to's on incorporating this healthy staple into your breakfast routine. The sky is the limit: you can use leftover cooked grains and add more water, you can cook the porridge from scratch in the morning, or you can cook it the night before and make enough for a few days at a time and just reheat a portion each morning if you find yourself strapped for time.

So what about the ubiquitous oatmeal? Most of you have had it, and many of you eat oatmeal on a somewhat regular basis as a healthy breakfast option. But, unfortunately, all oatmeal is not created equal. Cooking oats from their original state and eating them as a porridge will get you the same wonderful health benefits as the other whole grains described in the posts above, but simply microwaving up a packet of sugary, pre-flaked, preservative- and artificial flavor-laden oat bits isn't much better than reaching for a box of sugary, processed cereal. Many of my clients come to me and say they've been eating oatmeal, but using this quick-fix version because they don't have the time to make longer cooking oats, i.e. whole grain oats. But they find out from me soon enough that they are missing out, both on nutrition and taste! So luckily, I have a solution for them, and for you.

Steel Cut oatmeal, which some of you may already be familiar with, is not the hassle that you may think. Switching from the pre-flaked, processed and heavily sugared and flavored packets of oatmeal to plain steel cut oatmeal that you make yourself gains you the bounty of health benefits described above, while also delivering a much more satisfying, filling, and delicious breakfast. And don't worry, it won't be boring! Instead of banking on artificial flavors and sugars, you'll be sassing up your oatmeal with wholesome, natural toppings. But first, let's make the oatmeal:

Simply measure out 2-3 servings (each serving is 1/4 - 1/3 of a cup of dry steel cut oats), and wash well with warm water in a pot, rubbing the grains between your hands in the water for several minutes, then drain and rinse in a fine mesh sieve (this is essential for cooking with whole grains because it removes the phytic acid inherent in the grain). If you have the time to soak the oats for several hours before washing and cooking, even better, but washing well is fine- no excuses about not having time! Then, boil four times the amount of water to the total amount of oats (i.e. 4 cups of water for 1 cup uncooked oats, yielding 3-4 servings). Once the water is boiling, add the oats, turn down to medium-low and simmer for 30 minutes until a uniform, creamy, grainy texture. Done!

BUT, it gets better....I can hear you now saying "I don't have 30 minutes in the morning to cook breakfast!" and that's fine, many of us don't. But you don't need to miss out: simply switch the cooking time to the night before when you do have some free time, and then reheat on the stove in the same pot the next morning for breakfast, OR, try this nifty trick employed sometimes by myself and many of my clients: go through the initial steps above, but once the water is boiling and you add the oats, simply cover the pot and turn off the heat immediately, leaving the hot pot on the stove covered until morning. The oats cook themselves in that very hot water during the night, meaning no waiting 30 minutes for it to finish; by morning, it's done and simply needs to be reheated for 5 minutes in the same pot on the stove. You can make breakfast for the whole family this way! If you are just making it for yourself, you can still make enough for several servings and reheat on the stove for the next several days (3 days max).

Once you've got your upgraded oatmeal, proceed to the flavor station. Remember from the post on Going With the Grain that the ideal breakfast contains whole grain carbs along with protein and some healthy fat for long term energy and satiation, so a great topping for whole grain, home-cooked oatmeal is a spoonful of chopped nuts, toasted seeds like pumpkin or sunflower, or ground seeds like flax. To kick up the flavor, you can go sweet with a light drizzle of honey, maple syrup, agave or brown rice syrup, or try a sprinkling of dried fruit like raisins or dried blueberries instead. If you like it salty and want to experience how grounding and stabilizing a savory grain breakfast can be, sprinkle some sea salt or seaweed flakes. Be creative!

Once you try this version of the old favorite oatmeal, I think you'll be converted, and you'll see and feel the benefits in your body. Remember, if you try the cook-during-the-night version, this literally only takes minutes from your day! Isn't it worth it for a breakfast that is better in every way?

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Healthy Nutrition on a Budget

Recently I was hired to give a lecture on the topic of Healthy Nutrition on a Budget. This lecture was for a large, financially diverse audience, and the goal was to show people that anyone can make healthy, supportive food choices without spending a lot of money if they have the information and the movitation to do so. Best part is, it's easier than you think! Posted below by popular demand is a list of foods I passed out at the lecture, all of which were sourced and priced from two neighborhood food stores that are available throughout New York and many surrounding areas. For those who don't live in New York, there are Trader Joe's stores across the country, and Key Food is simply a standard chain grocery store, so you would be able to find these same Key Food items at your local chain grocery for similar prices. Enjoy! To make the lists easier to read, you can either zoom in on the image or print them out.



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Reality Check- Clearing Up Food Myths

I've noticed something funny. People love to talk about how something that was previously thought to be good for them is actually bad for them, and how something that was previously thought to be bad for them is actually good for them. When this trend combines with our cultural demand for a quick fix, have-your-cake-and-eat-it-too approach to food and health, we can really be led astray. First and foremost, let's bring it back to common sense and instinct, both of which are tools that are essential but sorely lacking in the modern day answer to the eternal question of what to eat .

If a food grows out of the ground provided by nature and is eaten in it's original unaltered state, does it make sense that this food would be bad for us? Likewise, if we take something that has traditionally been treated as an occasional indulgence food, such as cake or cookies, and twist and augment that food to be low fat, low calorie and low carb by altering the nature of all of the ingredients, do we have any reason to think that food is "healthier" than the original version?

It's time to get rid of the nonsense and get back to eating REAL FOOD. So I am here to help you clear a few things up, starting with the undeservingly maligned foods below:

Avocado- the myth is that it's too high in fat to be healthy. WRONG. The fat that avocado provides is a healthy, unrefined vegetable fat that helps to lubricate tissues of the lungs and intestine, build the blood, and soften hair and nails. The fat in avocado is easily digested and assimilated, making it a good choice for those who have trouble digesting heavier fats. Avocado is also high in protein, fiber, potassium, vitamin E, and copper, which assists in red blood cell formation. Thinking cap alert: avocado is a natural souce of lecithin, a known brain power food. Use the extra brain boost from eating avocado to help you to determine whether or not it makes any sense that a fruit that grows on a tree would be unhealthy for your body!

Peas and Beans- the myth is that they are too high in carbs to be healthy, valuable sources of protein. WRONG. The carbohydrates in beans and legumes are in the form of complex, slow burning carbs that deliver valuable, long lasting energy due to the fact they they are accompanied by high levels of protein and a powerful dose of fiber. When we digest carbs, they are converted into sugar and passed into our bloodstream to be used as energy. Which means that when we eat refined carbohydrates, such as products made from white flour and white rice, the protein and minerals and fiber have mostly been stripped away in the refinement process. So this means that those carbs are mainly only giving us glucose, and are therefore going to be converted into blood sugar very quickly, more quickly than most of us can use them- meaning that excess sugar in the bloodstream will be packed away and stored as fat. Whereas when we consume a complex carbohydrate such as a whole grain or a bean or legume, we have to break down all three components together- protein, fiber, and carbohydrate- which means a much slower, steadier release of sugar into the blood and therefore a much greater chance of using it before it's converted into fat for storage. It also means staying full and satisfied for longer, and no nasty energy peak-and-crash cycle. Best of all, by incorporating beans and legumes you can get all this healthy carb power AND satisfy your protein needs for your meal.

Carrots- the myth is that they are too high in sugar and/or carbs to be considered a healthy vegetable. WRONG. The sugars in carrots are arrive in a seriously vitamin packed parcel, delivering high doses of eye-healthy Vitamin A as well as supplying Vitamin B, phosphorous, iodine, calcium, and additional nutrients that provide anti-cancer properties. Carrots assist in digestion and elimination of waste due to their high fiber content, they also support the lungs, spleen-pancreas, and liver, and they strengthen the kidneys. Perhaps best of all, they actually aid in the lowering of blood sugar in the body while purifying the blood. I don't like to quote TV personalities but I'm gonna have to call on Oprah here: "Nobody ever got fat from eating carrots!".

Grains and Grain products- the myth is that they only provide calories and sugar in the form of carbohydrates and are therefore an enemy of weight loss and "unhealthy". WRONG. In addition to the way which they break down in the body stabilizing blood sugar and minimizing fat storage as described above, whole grains provide an impressively complete amino acid (protein) profile as well as rich content of minerals such as magnesium, which helps with loosening of tight and stagnant tissue (i.e. mitigating migraines, constipation, joint stiffness) and selenium, which assists in brain function and focus and mood stability. They are a powerhouse of fiber, protein, and healthy carbohydrates, providing us with energy to burn along with a whole host of strengthening and grounding nutrients. Best bet is to eat whole grains in their original form for the bulk of your carbohydrate intake, but foods like pasta and bread and other baked goods have been part of our culinary culture for a long time, so enjoy these products on a moderate basis but buy/make the whole grain versions to get the most benefit.

The point is to return to traditional wisdom about food. Does it make any logical sense that a fruit or a vegetable would be unhealthy for us, given what we know about fruit and vegetables and their role as vitamin and fiber providers in our diets? No. Is there any use in cutting valuable complex carbohydrates out of our diets when they have been the most basic, consistent and steady source of energy in the human diet for most of our history? Nope. Does it stand to reason that beans and legumes are inferior sources of protein when in many areas of the world they are and have been a traditional building block of protein consumption that can feed more people for less money using less resources and providing in some cases superior health benefits due to their plant based nature? I think you see my point.

So what about the things you always thought you should consume in moderation but are now being touted as "good for you" either because a study has been released saying so or because they've found a way to twist and tweak it to change whatever was considered indulgent about it in the first place? Ask yourself what makes sense. Coffee is being touted for it's antioxidants, and yet the caffiene in coffee is known to tax the kidkeys and adrenal glands, while dehydrating the body and creating an overly acidic environment. So does it make sense to start drinking coffee more than occasionally for antioxidant purposes, or to keep it as a sometimes-indulgence when you really want it and get your antioxidants from vitamin packed vegetables and fruits? I would go with the latter. Or what about the low-fat, low-calorie, low-carb versions of foods that were traditionally higher in these areas and were therefore used as accessory foods or special occasion foods? Consider this: switching to the fake version to save yourself the calories, carbs, or fat just means you're getting a fake food, and that in most cases the difference has been made up by adding unecessary refined sugars, chemicals, additives, preservatives, and flavoring agents, all of which are at best unnatural and and at worst toxic for your body. So why not skip the low fat low carb cake, and instead wait for someone's birthday party or a dinner out and have a small, real piece- savor it and enjoy the indulgence, because it is one. Or, take it a step further and make your own baked goods using whole grain flour, natural sweeteners like honey and maple syrup, and fruit for extra moisture rather than loading up on the heavier fats. Don't bother with fat free cheese or butter substitutes- if you really want to partake of those foods, have the real thing and have less of it and less frequently, knowing that it's more satisfying, and much more natural, to eat real food.

So take a break from all the hub-bub and contradicting theories out there, and go with your gut. We all have an instinct about food and what to give to our bodies in order to fill our needs, it's how we've always known how to eat as a species, and it's only recently that our commercial culture and "food science" industry is leading us away from that. We do need to empower ourselves with information, but we also need to trust ourselves to use our common sense and instinct to choose our food. It's time to bring it back to basics: real healthy food that makes real healthy sense.

Go Forth and Eat Real!!!


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Get Yourself Into A Pickle

So what's the deal with pickles? Are they simply extra garnish on the plate, or a flavorful addition that some people relish (sorry, I can't help myself!) but others view as mainly decoration?

Nope, there's more to it than that. Ever wonder why sandwiches and hamburgers are often accompanied by a pickle spear, or why hot dogs are traditionally topped with sauerkraut (which is pickled cabbage), or why sushi comes with pickled ginger? These various pickled foods aren't just there for decoration, and not just for their burst of taste either- fermented foods, including vegetables that are "pickled", serve a very important digestive function. Pickles are almost always served with other foods, rather than on their own, and for good reason- they actually help us to break down and better digest our other food, especially when it comes to animal foods such as meat which require more energy and effort from the body to digest. In all of the above examples, a meat or animal food is served with a pickled vegetable...we may think of it as just "the norm", and not think about the reason, but in fact these pairings come from a long tradition of food wisdom from other cultures about what our body needs in order to most efficiently assimilate and then dispose of the food we consume.

So what exactly do these powerful pickles do for us when it comes to digestion? Fermented foods such as pickles provide active healthy bacteria, or "flora", which we need in the intestinal tract in order to effectively break down and digest our food and then dispose of the remains as waste. This may come as a surprise, but we have active bacteria at work in our bodies all the time, and it's a good thing we do- we need them to adequately process the food we take in, and to be able to dispose of what we don't need. When we consume fermented foods such as pickles, these healthy bacteria get to work in our intestinal tract, and we reap the benefits through improved digestion in every area from assimilation of nutrients to ease of bowel function. This is why you hear about people taking probiotics or eating foods containing probiotics to ease digestive problems- it's that healthy bacteria getting the job done.

The meat and pickle connection comes in because of the fact that meat and animal foods are primarily composed of protein and fat, and don't contain the necessary fiber to move themselves smoothly through the intestinal tract on their own-our bodies depend on adequate intake of vegetal foods (foods that come from plants) to provide the absorbent, bulky fiber that will soak up water, become heavy, and move the more dense, protein and fat rich animal foods through the intestinal tract. If we aren't getting a good balance of animal to vegetal foods and there are not enough high fiber foods to move the low fiber animal foods through the colon, then the animal foods can sit there for too long and begin to decay and putrefy, thus releasing toxins and bad bacteria into the intestinal tract, interfering with digestion and also creating extra work for the kidneys and liver. These toxins and bad bacteria can also be released if we are consuming poor quality animal foods, or accidentally consume a piece of animal food that was spoiled. Therefore, it makes sense to have a tradition around consuming pickles in a meal that contains meat or animal food, because they give us that good bacteria to 1) help us to maximize our digestion and assimilation of nutrients from our food and assist in the disposal of what we don't need, and 2) balance out any bad bacteria that could be released due to low fiber foods "stuck" in the colon, and to get those foods moving to where they need to go.

In Northern Europe, where pork consumption has always been popular, sauerkraut is a staple. In the Middle East, where lamb is a featured meat, it is usually served with fermented yogurt. The examples go on. The best news is, the good bacteria connection only one part of the pretty pickle picture- fermented foods are also generally alkaline in nature and therefore help to balance out an acidic state in the body, which can result from the consumption of too much animal foods without balancing vegetal foods, or from consumption of too much alcohol, sugars, or extremely fatty foods and refined/processed foods. An overly acidic condition in the body creates inflammation, which is increasingly indicated as the predominant precursor to serious degenerative disease, as well as more common discomforts such as headaches, muscle cramps, and constipation. To avoid an acidic state in the body, it is therefore very important to balance with alkaline foods, as well as to mitigate stress which is a major contributor to inflammation.

But it doesn't stop there- pickles have another trick up their sleeve! In Eastern medicine, they considered very grounding to the body and mind; before people knew anything about a calorie or a fat gram or a carbohydrate, they used a different kind of science to help them understand foods and how they related to the needs of the body. This wisdom was based on the perceived energy of a food; the energy that would be imparted to a person who consumed it. When we get moving too fast, or too caught up in our head, or when we can't seem to stop the wheels from spinning and are feeling distracted, we need some grounding energy- something to bring us down to earth and calm us down. Pickles pack a powerful punch in this area. To prove it, try this experiment: the next time you are craving sweets mid-day or late at night (which is a common but misguided craving when people are moving too fast and burning out or feeling distracted), snack on a pickle spear instead of a cookie, or nibble a spoonful of sauerkraut instead of some ice cream. A few minutes later, see if that sweets cravings hasn't bitten the dust, and if you aren't feeling more relaxed and grounded (which is the exact opposite of how you'd be feeling if you gave in and went for sugar, because sweets have the opposite energetic effect).

So now you're ready to party with pickles! One thing to remember, though: the beneficial elements of pickled foods do depend on the active bacteria, so don't heat them to temperatures so high that these active bacteria have been killed. Stick to pickles, sauerkraut, and pickled ginger and other veggies that have not been heated. You also don't need a large amount to enjoy the benefits, and pickles are best enjoyed in moderation: one small serving per day is plenty. Happy Eating!

*And when it comes to wine and beer (yes, they are fermented, and of course everyone asks!), it's important to remember that they are also alcoholic, and so drinking more than one or two drinks puts your body at a disadvantage in terms of processing the effects of the alcohol.


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Lunch Bigger Than Dinner = Healthier and Slimmer

So we have been talking about the idea of aiming to make lunch the bigger, more balanced meal of the day, and to have a lighter and smaller dinner. To many this sounds difficult at first, or even crazy- why try to have my bigger meal at a time of day when I am so busy? In fact, it makes perfect sense, and is the far better choice for your health, your energy levels, your digestion, and even your waistline.

The reasoning behind this is that in the middle of the day, your body's metabolism is burning fuel at peak efficiency; we are designed that way because we have the most demands on our energy in the middle of the day. We're working, we're out and about, we're getting exercise, we're taking care of children, we're running through the daily tasks. You've heard the expression "many miles to go before you sleep", right? This is true of you in the middle of the day. So to eat the majority of your fuel in the morning and the afternoon when you actually need it in order to have energy to take on those miles only makes sense. The body reflects this truth in that it is wired to most effectively digest, assimilate, and burn our fuel in these active daytime hours when we need it most. Meanwhile, come evening, you don't have many miles to go before you sleep- most of us are only awake for a few hours after dinner, and those hours are spent slowing down, relaxing, maybe watching some TV or helping with homework, spending quiet time with family and getting ready to turn in for the night. So why would we fill our bodies full of fuel right when we're slowing down for the day and no longer need it? This results in the fuel being stored as fat until we need it, meanwhile the body's digestion and assimilation of nutrients are hindered by the slowing down of the body's metabolism and systems, and likewise sleep and the nightly repairing of the body through rest is hindered by the fact that we are trying to digest food when we should be resting. But we can't be blamed for loading up on food at night if we only had a nibble for lunch- by the time evening comes around, we're starving! At that point, we're deprived, of nutrients and fuel but also of the satisfaction that comes from enjoyment of food, and so we're eating to replace what we've already burned and what we've missed all day rather than eating to fuel for what's ahead. We need to reverse this cycle if we want to get in tune with the natural desires and needs of our bodies for optimum health and balance.

So why do we do this? How did we come to a place where we are habitually doing the exact opposite of what our bodies want and need? We got here because we got too busy, we got too fast in our daily lives, and we forgot to slow down and respect the rhythms of nature and how our bodies fit into that. We began to prioritize work over health. How often do you hear someone say "I barely have time for lunch, some days I skip it"? Probably all the time. Knowing what you now know after reading the above, think about the disadvantage this puts a person at when it comes to energy, digestion, weight management, and productivity at work (ironically, making this choice actually hinders your ability to work well), not to mention overall feelings of balance and well being. Now, how often do you hear someone say "I take an hour for lunch almost every day. I make it a commitment to myself"? Maybe not often...but that's what we all should aspire to, even if it means working a little later in the evening or coming in a few minutes early. Think about the advantage a person has in terms of balancing their energy and blood sugar (both of which prevent mood swings and energy crashes), optimally digesting and therefore best utilizing their food, and maintaining healthy weight if they are fueling up when their body needs it and can burn it rather than loading up at the end of the day when that fuel will be underutilized, poorly assimilated, and stored as fat.

Ready to consider making the switch but wondering how to make it happen? First, it is essential to make time during your day to eat a substantial lunch. This is non-negotiable; all of the above can only work if the mid-day meal is taken in a relaxed manner, where you can enjoy your food and your body has time to process it without being rushed. However, this is easier than you might think once you agree to prioritize it. For example, you wake up a few minutes early in order to prepare a lunch for the day, or you take a few minutes of your "slow down" time the night before to prepare something to bring the next day. Once at work, ideally you have an hour that you can use for lunch to either bring your food to a park or to someplace in the building that is away from the noise and distraction of work, such as a common area, where you can eat slowly and relax. BUT, even in the worst case scenario, if you can only take a 1/2 hour for lunch and it needs to be spent AT your desk or workspace, you can (and must) turn away from the computer or the work at hand, turn the phone off or to silent, and use that 1/2 an hour to eat slowly, chewing and breathing and enjoying your food. You don't have to bring your lunch from home to follow this model, you can run out and buy some food and do the same thing. The key is to have something substantial and balanced that you can eat and enjoy slowly to really fuel up for your day; then dinner becomes the supplemental meal that it is meant to be, hence "supper" (which actually comes from the word for "soup", a perfectly suited light dinner meal).

Remember: your body will devote it's attention and the energy expenditure to one primary thing at a time; if you are shoving down your lunch while typing an email or talking on the phone, that creates stress for your body which triggers a hormonal stress response and results in more storage of fat due to what the body perceives as an emergency- "Stop everything! We can only handle the emergency at hand!"- and in this stressed state, there is no way for you to process the intake of food effectively. You won't be satisfied either physically or emotionally, therefore you can definitely expect energy crashes, cravings, sleepiness, bloating, and moodiness later in the day, not to mention the long term effects: weight gain, chronic lethargy, hindered digestion symptoms such as constipation, sleeping problems (especially if consuming a lot of food at night before bed), and an overwhelmed and sludged up system.

So give it a try, and make the commitment to yourself- are you really going to prioritize that email or that phone call over your health? Even in the busiest and most demanding of jobs, 1/2 an hour to eat a substantial, balanced lunch slowly is not too much to demand. You need to be your own advocate on this, and be willing to do the preparation that will make it easier for you. Not to mention, eating a smaller and lighter dinner frees you up to spend more time in the evening doing what you really want to do- hanging out with your family and friends, enjoying down time and relaxing hobbies, winding down for quality sleep, and maybe spending a few minutes preparing your healthy substantial lunch for tomorrow! :)

Future posts will offer some ideas for just WHAT to eat for these bigger lunches and smaller dinners, so tune in!


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Brown Rice Reimagined

You've all heard that brown rice is good for you. Well guess what- it's not just good for you, it's great for you. It's one of the most nutritious foods available on the planet. It is packed with minerals that help with everything from boosting energy and building bone strength to improving brain function and mood elevation, while the high fiber and protein content (yep, brown rice is packed with protein) assure improved digestion and blood sugar regulation, which means no peaks and crashes in your energy. Say goodbye to that drowsy carb hangover feeling!

But like any other grain or carb, brown rice can seem a little bit boring unless you do something fun with it. Brown rice especially has an unfortunate reputation for being somewhat unpleasantly chewy and bland, but it doesn't have to be! Read on for some great ways to enjoy your brown rice, starting with how to prepare it.

Before cooking, wash raw brown rice very well in lukewarm water and drain through a mesh sieve (the holes in a colander are too big). If you have time, soak it in a bowl covered with lukewarm water for several hours (or even overnight), and then wash it well and drain. Soaking helps to open up the grain and remove the layer of acid on the outside of the grain, but washing is fine if that's all you have time for. Then, combine 1 part rice with 2 1/2 parts clean water in a pot, bring to a boil, then turn to low heat, cover with the pot lid, and simmer covered until all water is absorbed (25 to 30 minutes roughly, but check to avoid burning). This will make a lovely moist, fluffy, dense, and somewhat sticky rice. If you like your rice "drier" and less sticky, use closer to 2 parts water per 1 part rice. Part of the beauty of brown rice is that it has a delicious natural sweetness, and the longer you cook it, the more this sweetness comes out. Using the extra water results in longer cooking, and therefore a sweeter rice. But it is a matter of taste.

Once you have cooked your brown rice, read below for some fun things to do with it. Don't hesitate to experiment with brown rice or other grains and mix it up with your own ideas; grains are like bread, they are a medium upon which you can add all different textures and tastes without really going wrong. The possibilities are endless!

Here are some that I've created in my kitchen laboratory:


Candy Rice

This dish is so sweet and colorful that I couldn't help but name it Candy Rice, even though the health benefits it provides make it the furthest thing from candy! Packed with grounding, vitamin rich and fiber full root vegetables, this dish will have your body thanking you even more than your taste buds are...now that's sweet.

2 medium carrots, scrubbed and cut into rounds or small chunks
1 medium beet, scrubbed well, top and bottom removed, cut into small chunks
1 small to medium onion, cut into chunks
1 cup cooked brown rice (cooked beforehand)
1 tablespoon unrefined sesame oil
Sea salt and fresh pepper to taste


Preheat the oven to 400 degrees. Add the chopped vegetables to a medium size roasting pan or cast iron skillet and drizzle all over with the 1 tablespoon sesame oil, moving them around in the oil to make sure all pieces are coated. Sprinkle with sea salt and pepper, and roast in the oven at 400 degrees for 20 minutes or so. Remove, shift vegetables around in pan to distribute heat and evenly coat with oil, and put back in oven for another 15 minutes or so. They will be done when they are sizzling and soft to pierce with a fork, but not brown or falling apart. Remove the pan from the oven, and add the cup of cooked brown rice right into the pan. Gently and thoroughly stir all the ingredients around to mix well; the rice will soak up the extra sesame oil in the pan, and will turn a lovely mottled pink color from the juice of the beets. Serve immediately, or leave to sit covered at room temperature to let flavors combine and all the oil be absorbed. Due to the earthy sweetness, this makes a great accompaniment to a dish with a contrasting flavor, such as spicy or bitter; I served it with a dish of lightly sauteed radicchio and kidney beans seasoned with coriander and topped with a raw sauerkraut garnish. The bitterness from the radicchio and the tartness of the coriander and sauerkraut were so perfect when paired with the sweetness of the candy rice! Who needs dessert after a meal like that?



Breakfast of Champions:

If you're ready to try something truly different for breakfast, try this savory, Asian-inspired treat that will give you buckets of energy due to its high protein and mineral content, with just enough good fats to keep you satisfied well until lunch. The sauerkraut, since it is a fermented food, provides powerful grounding energy and a boost to intestinal health by balancing intestinal bacteria and thus assisting in digestion and assimilation. Also makes a great brunch or lunch option. Who says breakfast can't be savory?

-1 cup cooked brown rice
-2 tablespoons unshelled and toasted sunflower seeds or pumpkin seeds (toasted by stirring in a dry skillet over medium-low flame for just long enough for them to begin to pop and change color slightly, but not burn. Can be made ahead of time.)
-2 tablespoons kimchee, sauerkraut, or other pickled vegetable, OR, if pickled anything isn't your thing, throw in some leftover roasted veggies such as carrots instead
-1 tablespoon dried seaweed flakes (such as dulse, nori, or a mix, available at health food stores)

Special addition optional: top with one organic egg, soft boiled or soft fried


Mix all ingredients in a bowl and enjoy! It's that simple. If you are using the egg, mix all ingredients in a bowl first and then top with one boiled or fried egg, soft cooked so that the yoke mixes into the rice and when cut up. This is delicious, and if seaweed and pickled vegetables anytime before noon (or anytime EVER) sound crazy to you, try it without those ingredients and throw in some diced up leftover cooked veggies or just season with sea salt and pepper and enjoy a simpler version. You can start there and experiment more later. Like it sweet? Try the same idea, but nix the seaweed, sauerkraut and veggies and opt for some dried fruit and a drizzle of maple syrup, honey, or agave nectar.



Money Rice

Collard greens are traditionally associated with a hope of wealth in Southern culture, but it's your body that will be getting rich off of this dish- dark leafy greens are incredibly detoxifying due to their vitamins and high chlorophyll content, while pumpkin seeds provide healthy fats and zinc which strengthens the immune system, especially beneficial for women's health issues.

1 cup cooked brown rice
1 bunch collards greens, center ribs removed, sliced into thin ribbons
2 tablespoons toasted pumpkin seeds (see instructions above for toasting seeds)
2-3 tablespoons finely diced onion
1 tablespoon sesame oil
Sea salt and pepper


Once the collard green leaves have been stripped of their center ribs and sliced into thin ribbons with a sharp knife, submerge them in a deep bowl of cool water and move them around to release any stuck on dirt, then drain. Add still-wet collard green leaves to a saute pan or skillet, cover, and turn heat to medium-high. Within a few short minutes, the small amount of water on the leaves from washing will have heated up and provided enough moist heat to cook down the leaves to a wilted state while preserving their bright green color (this method is called "water saute", and can also be done with a small amount of water in the skillet). At this point, remove from heat and place back in strainer to drain out any excess moisture. Meanwhile, heat 1 tablespoon of sesame oil in the same skillet (dry the skillet in between if necessary) and saute the 2 tablespoons of diced onion until well cooked and fragrant, even caramelized. Toss in cooked collard green leaves and toasted pumpkin seeds and coat well with the oil and onion. Finally, mix in the cooked brown rice and toss all ingredients in the skillet to combine and spread the oil and flavor throughout. Season with sea salt and fresh ground pepper. This dish received very high marks from the Husband, and is versatile because it can be switched up to include pretty much any other dark leafy green, and the pumpkin seeds can be switched for sunflower seeds, sesame seeds, or even pine nuts.

Possibilities with brown rice and other whole grains are endless, so get to know and love them! Brown rice works particularly well in the above recipes, but you could substitute a grain like quinoa or barley as well, with an equally nutritious and delicious result. Happy Eating!


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